Terapia per stranieri a Copenaghen.

Moving to another country changes ordinary days in ways that are hard to predict. Someone who felt capable at work back home might read a letter from the kommune three times and still not be sure what it says. Someone who was always the funny one in their group might find that their jokes don't work in Danish. In her memoir Lost in Translation, Eva Hoffman writes about emigrating as a teenager and finding that words in her new language didn't feel connected to the things they named. Many of our clients describe something similar, even if they haven't put it that way.

After a while it can be hard to tell what's actually causing the trouble. Feeling low in February might have to do with the dark, with work, with being far from family, or with something older that the move made harder to ignore. Sorting that out is often the first useful thing we do together.

Couples often settle in at different speeds. One partner might be biking to work in the November rain and feeling surprisingly happy, while the other is still waiting for Copenhagen to feel like home. Because the decision to move was usually made together, that difference can be hard to talk about without someone feeling blamed.